A snarkling writes:
Question for your blog. My agent doesn't send/email me rejections unless I ask for them. That is my agent's "policy". I find it annoying. My agent said if I ask in an email then she'll let me know, but rather than emailing her once a month (and worrying about the nag factor and all that), I'd rather just find out after it happens. Is this a common thing? And how often can I email her asking who we've heard from before I become a nag?
You can write every day if you tell her you love her to pieces and you'd be lost without her. Or if you include a downloadable twenty dollar bill. But enough about my clients list of minimum daily requirements.
Your agent has told you how she operates, and how to accommodate your needs and hers. If she tells you to email once a month, she is saying "you won't be a nag if you do this."
If you email her every day ... then that's nagging.
I don't email or send rejections either. Look, I hate getting them and they aren't even for MY work. If they said something constructive like "you know Snark, you've got a client here who can't write compound sentences to save his life" or "I found the heroine to be too much like you Miss Snark for my comfort level with a YA book unaccompanied by Tipper Gore warning label" well then sure.
But mostly I get, and I'm quoting VERBATIM from the top of MY rejection stack here:
"Dear Miss Snark, Thank you for sending me Felix Buttonweazer's intriguing novel. With a modern cross culture love story and strong characters I was happy to consider it. But I'm afraid I just didn't LOVE it in a way that I need to in order to be its advocate. Alas, I must pass, but I'm sure you will find this novel the right home."
Now you tell me what purpose sending THIS drivel serves. It absolutely doesn't reference the two hour lunch wherein we talked about this novel, the characters, what makes it a "modern western" etc. It doesn't give the author any constructive help in what to change/fix/delete/burn. The editor just didn't love it enough. Great. That's helpful. It's also a damn fact of life and there's nothing I can do or say that's gonna change it.
But hey, if you want to see them, go for it. I'll run them through the copy machine till my little fingers are black with soot. But you have to remind me cause this isn't on the list of things I do every day.
In every relationship there are things that annoy you. If this is the least of it, you're home free. Think of my poor clients who must deal with a daily Snark Factor.