At what point do I thank the agent for his or her time?
Here's what I've been doing:
1) Query agent
2) Receive request to see partial or full
3) Send partial or full, thanking the agent for her time and interest
5) Receive rejection, the usual "writing is polished but I couldn't work up the enthusiasm" etc.
6) Move on
Now my instinct is to write back at number 6 and thank her for her time and speedy reply. No questions, no comments. No asking for more information. Simple.
But I've heard the agent should have the last word, so I haven't sent a thank you at this point. I have, after all, thanked her ahead of time for her time.What think you all? This seems a small enough point to get Snarkling feedback but maybe not big enough to bother Miss Snark.
Miss Snark is not bothered in the slightest by questions of when to send her flowers and choccies. Oh wait, that wasn't the question was it?
Do not confuse "having the last word" with saying thank you. It's never ever incorrect to thank someone for reviewing your work. Sometimes you don't need to, such as when you get a form letter or when the agent demonstrates rampant nitwittery (see preceding posts), or if you already have done so. It's ok to do so even then, but you don't lose your Snarkling Good Conduct badge if you don't.
Having the last word means simply that once the agent says no you do not go back with variations on why, you nitwit, you'll be sorry, or even neener, neener. No matter how justified.
No matter how much you want to do it. No matter how much you think you should do it. Don't. Just don't. Move on.