Good Day Miss Snark,
I have a dilemma. As an amateur writer I dream of becoming a published writer except, I am scared. What I fear is that I am not good enough, I am scared of failing, I sometimes sabotage my writing so that I won’t find out the truth. Two years ago I took a huge step and submitted a synopsis for completed manuscript. I was asked for a full. I became frightened and did not send it. I made up all the perfect excuses not to and I got away with it. I got the itch again just a month ago, I completed a manuscript and entered it into a contest and was asked for a full. This time, I don’t have an excuse, except I can’t send it in because…I don’t know why.
My question is, is this a phobia among writers or am I being stupid? What is your advice?
You might be surprised how often this happens. I see it at writer's conferences; a good idea then zippo, nada when I ask to see a partial.
Here's what I think will help. You need to remove yourself from this process. Write the query letter. Mail it. Employ a friend, or your mom to assist. Have the SASE addressed to her. When it comes back asking for a full (or whatever) your mom sends it. You don't even need to know.
Or you can just pretend to BE someone else. It's always easier to do things for other people than for ourselves. Heck, you'd leap in front of a speeding car for your kid, let alone stand in line at the mailbox for her.
Failure isn't trying and not achieving. Failure is not trying. Failure is letting your fear rule your actions. Suck it up. Wasting your talent is not ok.
Get your ass in gear or Miss Snark will track you down and introduce you to the motivational efforts of Killer Yapp, fearless poodle.