Yesterday, some poor nitwit asked her blog readers to lobby an editor about the partial she'd just submitted. (She was surprised I'd seen it. I saw it the same way I see almost all the good stuff I talk about--a reader sent me the link).
I posted the blog entry here and invited you to tell me why it's bad idea.
You complied vociferously.
This nitwit of the week is one of many nitwits. We've ALL done nitwit things. I've been my own nitwit more than once, just today, and it's only 10am.
Here's the thing. You can recover.
This isn't death.
We all screw up.
All of us, every day.
It's what you do after you realize the great idea you had wasn't so great.
The email sent in the heat of the moment was overwrought.
What sounded funny to you wasn't heard with the same ears.
You just screwed up for whatever human reason.
Pick yourself up.
None of this "if I may have offended you" or "if I offended you".
A sincere apology is "I fucked up. I'm really sorry. I learned a lot from this. I ask your forgiveness". Those words can be really really hard to say, particularly when you are feeling attacked, and defensive.
Give yourself some down time and some perspective:
Go look at some of the wonderful art online at the Met. Here's the Temple of Dendur. Mistakes fall away in the fullness of time.
There's a reason I go to the Met at least once a week.