Hey, you've got my pages!

Dear Miss Snark,

I am going to a conference this weekend and have just learned that an agent I queried a couple of months ago will be there. As recommended by her agency's website, I sent the first fifty pages with the query.

Now, I have no intention of seeking out this agent at the conference and pestering her. (I am pretty good at seeking, but pestering is definitely not my forte.) If I am talking to her at dinner or something, however, should I allude to that fact? I don't want to be a nuisance, but it also seems somehow disingenuous not to mention it.

Stay quiet as the proverbial church mouse.
There is no up side to telling her she's got your pages.
Chances are she hasn't read them; if she has, she won't remember them unless she's asking for more.


Anonymous said...

I was at a con once where a writer asked an editor whether they'd received their sub. The editor said they had, and that they'd just mailed back a rejection. We all made sympathetic noises but the writer was clearly shattered.
The rule is, if you don't want others to hear about your dirty laundry, don't ask about it in public. Better to socialize.

Kimber An said...

True. And aren't conferences for learning? One learns so much more by keeping one's mouth shut.

ORION said...

Oh Kimber an so truee...
I wish I could learn to do that!

Stephanie Blake, Colorado Writer said...

What happens when you meet an editor at a conference for your "paid-for pitch," they take your sample pages with them, tell you they will get back to you in a week, but never respond? I have been patiently waiting since July and have sent 1 nudge email, which was never answered.

I already know the answer, thanks to Miss Snark. "Good writing trumps all!"

angrylil'asiangirl said...

questions such as this one strike me as odd. it's as if some writers, in their eagerness and desperation to get published, forget all rules of proper decorum and etiquette. no matter how desperate i was to get feedback on a submitted m.s., it would never occur to me to make that desperation known. for me, it's more of an etiquette thing, and it's a rule that i just unconsciously adhere to at all times.

it's because of pride. if i happened to be in the same situation as the person who posed this question and met an agent i'd queried at a literary event, like hell am i gonna show the agent just how emotionally vested i am in his/her response! number one rule of angrylil'asiangirl: die before you ever show you care, even if you do! i'd merely just exchange pleasantries, ask about his/her health, and just let the conversation drift naturally to other things. if the subject of the m.s. comes up, fine. if not, i ain't gonna push it. for me, it's really just a matter of keeping up appearances, not groveling, and keeping pride intact.