Do tell me, Kindly Miss Snark:
When a writer is most certainly not a nitwit; when she has done her research ad infinitum and ad nauseum; when she would never dream of blind copying 250 "Dear Agents" or sending a query to "Ms. Snark's blog" or any such writerly faux pax...
When she has written her first novel, thrown it out there to beta readers (not her mom), thrown a page to the crapometer and gotten chewed up and spat out, worked on it some more, queried intelligently, got some requests for partials and a truckload of rejections...
When she's quietly tucked the first novel in a drawer and labeled it "training novel;" when she has written a second, superbly better novel, born out of the pain of experience, revised until sweat turned to blood...
When she queries this new novel -- again, intelligently, carefully, by-the-rules -- and receives more rejections; when she tweaks the query (as per sage advice gleaned from agent blogs) and re-queries, and is still continually rejected...
When she KNOWS that she can write, dammit, and she's not among the "stupid," though obviously among the "uninteresting" or "unpublishable" or whatever it is she has been tossed among...
When her genre is considered "hot" (young adult) and she has been told (and told and told) to "write what she loves" and "write what she knows," and she does just that -- and it happens to be young adult fiction, something about which she is passionate...and it's still Not Good Enough...
What is then left for her but to quit?
She is not a Quitter by nature. She is feisty, determined, passionate, driven. She has grown her Thick Skin and receives Publisher's Lunch daily and takes criticism with an open mind and ready pen.
She is not a "wimp."
But she is tired. She is discouraged. She can't take this anymore.
She really, really can't.
What does Miss Snark say to her, when "Don't give up" now sounds trite?
She barely has the strength to listen.
She cancels her subscription to Publishers Lunch.
She stops reading Miss Snark's blog.
She doesn't cancel her internet service but she sets her "do you want to stay connected" timer for 20 minutes.
She thinks long and deeply about what brings her joy.
If writing is your joy, you will be able to go on.
You don't need me to tell you this.
You know it already.
I'm only reminding you to remember what you love.